Rosie Wilby is a comedian (and philosopher) at the cutting edge of the Revolution! The revolution in Love, Sex and Friendship… I didn’t know that; about her, I mean. It’s going on right now; the change. You might find yourself in a passionate embrace with a friend, she says, and not meet again for yonks and pick up for a gossip and a cup of something, later – and never touch, intimately, again. And still go home to the love of your life and survive what happened. And even if that love doesn’t come home one night when you expected her – as long as she’s clear about what made her fall, briefly, for the irresistible young stranger… and is believable when she says that what she values long-term is YOU – you can both survive it.
Because WE ARE NOT A MONOGAMOUS SPECIES… says Rosie. And by golly she’s right. I tried to illustrate that in a wild rip through love, sex and marriage in my stage piece Love, Question Mark. On the way, I picked up a train of devotees, but annoyed quite a few people who (in spite of their own carry-on in private) wanted to sustain the rubbish about ’till death us do part’ and the exclusive bond for life; as the perfect way to be with someone else. I even had an actor who couldn’t face saying this ugly, disruptive stuff on stage.
Well, Bernard Shaw – courageous chap – was seriously beginning to face the monogamy nonsense in the two plays we shall be putting on in January. He does it by making us laugh, of course. We have aggressive female mate-selection in one play and a curious twist on male mate-guarding in the other. Come and see them…